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Why I’ve Left Facebook for Google+ – Part 2

I love Google+! Within an hour of re-installing the app on my iPhone (and my Android tablet shows it off even better) and finding all sorts of interface improvements since January, I knew I’d rather be over there… but all of my “friends” were still on Facebook. What was I going to do? Oh no!

New friends

I made new friends, duh. Lots of them.

I sought out photographers and put them in my circle for photographers. I found Canon users and made a circle just for them, as well as adding them to my photography circle. I added tech sites like Ars Technica and Wired to have great articles to read. Most of my tech friends on Google+ (who were also on Facebook and/or Twitter) posted articles rather than status updates. Google+ isn’t about statuses. It’s about sharing information and collaborating and having hangouts (very cool) to get to know each other better and expand your knowledge or horizons.

I’ve also noticed that most people mostly keep their political news to themselves, but there’s a decent portion who will do one post every day or so. It’s sort of like keeping to the safe topics at the dinner table. However, when a political person or entity posts something, then the comments can get really vicious really quickly. I think the difference between Facebook and Google+ in this respect is not everyone is actually a friend, so they feel like they can say anything if they don’t know you… however if they’re not your friend but are fans and are friendly, they keep their comments to themselves. I don’t see much, if any, going out of one’s way to be rude in comments.

Some days, Facebook statuses put me in a plain old foul mood. “How could people actually have these world views?” was a constant irritant to my sense of justice and right-ness. That has gone away because I don’t often find controversial quotes or the like on Google+.

Stop tooting

Another interesting life change of using Google+ instead of Facebook has been a sharp decrease in anything that could be construed as bragging. That’s what a significant percentage of statuses are… “look at me, Daddy!” syndrome for adults crying out to all of their friends and enemies. I’m guilty as charged, too. Wilhelm Hofmann from the University of Chicago Booth School of Business says this about constantly being connected to social media,

“Ask yourself: How important is this, really? How happy does it actually make you?” he said. “Harness that feeling of pride when you do resist and stick to it.”

Status mindset

The constant thinking in status updates is gone because there are no status updates on Google+ if you’re using the platform correctly. The early adopters set the rules and the rules state that you’re boring if all you do is type statuses without links, images, or videos. Google+, like I said earlier, is about passions. Passions are worth more than words… or at least your readers deserve a nice photo while they read something you write because that’s how the platform was built for tablets and phones.

There’s a movement

It seems like every week, I read a blog post by another person who completely deleted their Facebook account and has noticed massive changes in their life. Here is a good one from September that you should read, if for no other reason but perspective.

I have to say, I feel better by only spending about 5 minutes per week on Facebook. Have you left yet, or at least started using Google+ more?

$5 Towards Diabetes Research and Awareness

$100 GoalWe’ve all been touched by diabetes. Either we know a friend or family member who has it or has even died from some of its many side issues or we have it or have been warned to change our diet and exercise to avoid permanent damage.

Me, I’ve been told to cut out sugary drinks and my A1C has been good for 3 years.

So, when our friend, Chris told us he was walking this year and that last year NO ONE had donated to his walk, Beautiful and I decided to help out and show him how we do it in the CF community. No one should ever attend a walk without any sponsors. NO ONE.

Let’s change that for Chris and his family this year. Yesterday, his donations were still at zero. There is a $5 minimum, but let’s keep it to a reasonable $5-$26 (26 million people in the US have diabetes) and let’s see how high this can go by the 10th. He is at $61 at the time of this publication.

If every regular reader donates $5, that’s going to eclipse this goal many, many times over. Let no man (or woman) walk with $0 donated ever again.

Please donate now.

I’ll keep this post updated every day or so until the walk.

Please donate now.

Almost at a Loss for Words

This is it. The end.

No, not for me or for this site. You see, my grandpa was looking forward to going to the county fair over Labor Day weekend. He was fine on the Thursday before and alarmingly ill on Labor Day. We got texts later in the week from my aunt that it was time to make arrangements for family to come.

Beautiful and I were just there with Boy in July. The end of July. He was fine! Slowing down – a little hard to see that, but he is 82 – but far, far better than he was last October.

Ivan Sipes - July, 2012

In October, we said our “goodbyes” to him thinking that we wouldn’t see him again. When we left in July, we did a more casual, quick, “see you later” farewell as we loaded up the car.

That is how I’ll remember him.

We decided last year when we traveled to Ohio twice to see/care for him that we didn’t want our last memories of him to be sick, dying in bed, just waiting for the end to come. That is what everyone who is there now is witnessing. Blood pressure has dropped below mine, respirations down to 7 per minute, and unresponsive. This is the end. We were there so often when he was well and when he needed us that we feel like we are preserving his legacy better in our hearts and minds, guilt-free of not being there now, and I know he’s fine with that.

Just fine.

(5 minute break for composure)

We’ll remember him (1 minute break for composure) as the Grandpa who was on the Deere while Grandma followed behind picking up all of the limbs from the “land hurricane” that blew through central Ohio in July. They were outside for hours at a time, just like he was a few years ago.

He will likely slip off into the presence of his Father sometime tonight or tomorrow and we’ll be crying and happy for him at the same time. No more pain. No more suffering. He’s finished his race and he ran it well. I know no more honorable, kind, loving, forgiving person of all the people I know or know of.

The world is losing one of its greatest.

We’ll get a court order to take Boy to his previous caregiver on the way so we can grieve when we get there. The court order means we’ll probably leave Monday or Tuesday night and arrive in Ohio about 24 hours later.

I’ll write more later… when my thoughts are clear again. There will probably be more news then, too.


I am now at a loss for words – good thing I wrote this last night but hadn’t found the photo yet.

We got word around 6am this morning that he slipped away peacefully. It is done. My hero has left the building.

Why I’ve Left Facebook for Google+ – Part 1

I've Moved to G+I’ve been on Google+ now and Twitter off and on as I’m working or to keep in touch with my very broad network of nearly 2,000 friends from conferences and others in my industry. I’ve had a Nexus 7 tablet for 2 weeks now and haven’t installed Facebook on it, connected to Facebook, or shared to Facebook. I’ve noticed a number of changes to my mind, friends, and network that I’ll share in later posts.

Over the past 24-36 months, I’ve considered leaving Facebook for one reason or another. It was usually because of one of the following annoyances to my daily life:

  • they changed something about the experience that was a change most of us didn’t like (things like Timeline or the activity stream in the sidebar)
  • they changed privacy settings that made everyone go change something to maintain their privacy
  • a tech story broke about employees leaving based on their conscience
  • The Social Network movie

I’ve read up on many privacy issues, seen their own CEO’s family leave to go work for other tech companies, including Google, and read many accounts about how peoples’ lives changed after cutting the cord. For me, it’s an overall mindset of what they are doing with our openness with each other and our willing and also unknowing sacrifice of personal information, coupled with lifestyle changes that have moved me enough to leave.

I decided to leave on July 15th when I was using the phone app and deleted all of the apps I’ve allowed to connect with Facebook after reading how they are really vulnerable to have my info (and who knows what they REALLY have access to on my computer). I went back into the Facebook app and found all 22 of them were still allowed! I read some more articles that day: here, here, here, and here.

I got quite the string of “what the heck, you moron?” comments from a number of people who were classified as “friends” on Facebook. Others were intrigued or wanted to know more, so I provided the links above. Some of my friends came over to Google+ or re-visited their accounts that they looked at last year and no one was there to play with. Believe you me, there are tons of people now – just not early adopters of technology. We saw the same thing with the decline of MySpace and climb of Facebook about six years ago.

I’ve agreed to not deactivate my account so Beautiful can “still be married” according to Facebook… but one day she’ll make the switch and not care what that little box says. Four years ago, she reluctantly joined Facebook while we were on vacation. I didn’t see much of her after that because she was busy finding hundreds of old friends. I’m confident that will happen all over again.

Who’s Feeling Adventurous?

I know quite a handful of you are already over there. I’ve got a pretty good collection of you in my CF-related circle, but you’re pretty dormant. Hit me up, add me to your circles, and we’ll start sharing stuff over there.

My next post will be about how I’m liking (or not) Google+ in quite a bit more detail than I’ve alluded to already.

I leave you with some things for your learning pleasure: