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Life Goals – How Foster Parenting Fits In

This entry is part [part not set] of 2 in the series Cystic Fibrosis and Foster Care

HAndsIf you would have asked me a year ago if I thought we’d become foster parents, I’d have said that there wasn’t any chance. We were definitely thinking we’d be adopting or even possibly wondering if we’d ever have kids since we were both working so hard and not really excelling financially enough to consider Beautiful staying home. We were using most of her income every month, so it would have been irresponsible to go down to one income.

We were also concerned with saving for the long-term possibility of transplant and wondering how much we’d have to save to adopt. Not very likely that we were going to save up $50k for those events any time soon at the rate we were going – even with the steady upward slope we’ve experienced the whole time we’ve been married. That’s a lot of money to throw around!

Beautiful has always wanted to work. She didn’t see herself getting married and settling down before I came along, but even then the plan was to go to college and get a degree and have a career. Kids have been creeping into our heads more and more over the years, but it was always the same story: we just couldn’t swing one income.

For me, it was starting to wear down my self-esteem. It’s so easy to compare ourselves to others who have one working parent and the other that stays home with the kids. Even our marriage mentors are both home on one income – he works in the bedroom office and she home-schools their 3 girls (sound like anything we might be thinking of doing?). Even though I’m 32, it’s hard to remember that we’ve only been working at this as a team for 5 years and I need to step back and look at where we are and where we’ve come from.

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My Bucket List Took a Huge Hit Today

Pacific first time

I’ve been wanting to come to the West Coast, California particularly, for years now. Beautiful grew up in CA and I wasn’t able to come with her the last time she came with her family when we were dating, so this is my first chance to come out. We were coming into San Diego for landing when the pilot suddenly gave us a big burst of juice when we were at about 300 feet and up we went.

A plane had not cleared the runway, so we got waved off.

Onward we flew to the Pacific Ocean and made a huge round-about back over the Navy base and flew back through downtown for the No. 10 most harrowing airport landings in the world. If we hadn’t been waved off, I wouldn’t have seen the Pacific today, so I’m very glad.

First Pacific Ocean sighting: 4:46pm PDT May 24, 2011.